We always seek the opinions of others when we have to make life altering decisions. It’s nice to have the approval of your family, friends, or well-wishers on some decisions, but this habit can get in the way of your ability to make the best choices for yourself. Thomas Salzano, a New Jersey-based traveler, photographer, guitarist, and a blogger shares some tips that can help you to make a best choice for yourself without the approval from anyone.

Here’s what he has to say:

Listen to Your Instinct

Seeking too many options on something can only confuse you, so trust your instinct. According to psychology, human intuition is shaped by his/her past experiences; therefore it’s better to say that our intuition offers us the most optimal decision.

Don’t Take Decisions in the Bad Mood

As emotions influence our decision making, try to take an important decision when you are in a neutral state of mind. Happiness also tends to hamper our decision-making ability.

Ask Questions

Beth Burgess, a therapist, life coach, and a writer framed 7 questions that may guide you in making the right choice.

  • What am I afraid of?
  • What does my heart say?
  • If I don’t do this now, will I regret it later?
  • What am I really doing this for?
  • Will I like myself after this decision?
  • Who I am really doing this for?
  • Can I cope with the fall-out?

Ask for advice but make your own choice

Every choice you make should be made by the most important person; you. Still, it’s not a bad idea to ask for an advice from the person you trust.

Dr. Travis Bradberry, the president of Talent Smart once said: “Their perspectives help you weigh your options more objectively and to spot your subjective or irrational tendencies.”


The more you trust yourself, the better your decisions will be for you. Hope you like the tips were written by Thomas J Salzano, a New Jersey-based traveler, photographer, hairstylist and a blogger.